my simplification process

ha. I’m not sure if that’s even a real word. I think it’s one of those made up words that people think they can say to sound smarter. I used it to be kind of funny. So please don’t take that seriously.

Onto the post… So, life has slowed down now that the 2 weddings I was helping with are done! I did crafty stuff for both weddings. One, I made fabric flowers for the bridesmaids and flower girls. I was pretty proud of myself. And I also helped set up a candy bar and a dessert buffet. For the other wedding, I was matron of honor and I made the little tags that went on the champagne flutes so that people knew they were favors!πŸ™‚

Ok for real, time to talk to about simplifying! That was sort of about simplifying though. Time has opened up! And I had to clean out my craft room for people to stay in there. I really feel like my house has lost weight… Now to just keep it that way and to keep losing!!! I’m not finished in my craft room either. I had to get to the point that I just had to shove things back in because I needed to get stuff done before people got there. Also, my dear friend came over while I was at work and vacuumed, washed my dishes, picked up, cleaned my kitchen. She is wonderful!!!

So that’s an update on my simplifying. I’m not doing a very good job simplifying my time though. I just noticed a week in June that is completely booked up already!!!! Insane!! AH! But we’re definitely spending less, but we’re not down to where we should be though. We need to spend LESS! Especially with this new income… I’m pulling Mint back into our game plan I think! I just need to figure out something that works. We both have direct deposit now, so that simplifies my time going to the bank as long as I can get some cash for our envelope system. It’s way outta whack right now. Very unfortunate!

So yeah, another thing to help my life, I’m doing a Pampered Chef order soon to just order all my wedding presents for the year! I have 4 weddings I’ve been invited too for the rest of the year so far (2 are on the same day). SO, I’m gonna get a head start and try to keep my consultant status too. I also want to really get more serious about this business since we have a lower income now. Maybe this will work out!

Ok, I think I just rambled more. I can update later too. I’m getting more plans for organizing my house though!!πŸ™‚

timing is everything

I’m going to train at my new job today. I took off 2 days from my current job to go train at the new one because I gave a 3 week notice instead of just 2. I didn’t want to leave them stranded with such a busy last week. That job is probably gonna go out with a bang… We are so swamped next week!!

But this new job is very exciting for me. I’ve really been wanting a job like this for over a year now! The most appealing thing about my new job is that I will only work 30 hours a week instead of 40. This job popped up at the right time. We’ve been so swamped at work recently and it takes my stress level to an all new high sometimes. No just the work itself, but the feeling of being bogged down by work at home, errands that need to be run, hobbies that I want to do, cooking for my husband and me, and wanting to be social.

A downer to this job, less money coming in. Even though my time will be more open, I need to keep my time at home more sacred. I don’t need to plan things with people so much. I need to just take my time, literally. #1 – I don’t want to get my schedule just as packed as it is now. #2 – our funds will be less, so I don’t even have money to spend on these type of things! If someone wants to buy my coffee, go on ahead!! I won’t complain!

Rachel of Small Notebook sums it up wonderfully in her blog post on doing less, “There is a fear of missing out, skipping an opportunity, or giving up a chance to have success.”

That fear is strong in me! I’m always afraid of missing out on something! I want to do it all. I want to have all the memories with my friends! But this is also why my schedule looks the way it does.

But now that I’ll be starting a new job next month (May 2nd is officially my first day!), I have a great opportunity to start on a clean slate. People will be understanding and will hopefully work with us when it comes to saying that we can’t afford something.

I hope through this new venture that I can be more gospel-centered. I hope I do use my time well. There’s a lot to be done though. I’m looking forward to tackling this house, setting aside more time for God, go to the gym more often (it’s now going to be on the way to work, and I’m already paying for the membership anyway…), and learning to say “no” more often.

focus

So what’s my focus for doing all this purging? I think I just need to write this out so I can keep my focus for the times I get frustrated because I can’t make a decision or I get rid of something that I meant to keep. I’m very excited and anxious to get started. I wish I could right now. But when I walk in my door at home, I get so overwhelmed by what needs to be done. But that’s just it. It needs to be done.

My initial reason before I left for Rwanda to downsize my house was to keep it clean. I didn’t realize exactly how and why my life would be changed in Rwanda, but I knew it would. So I wanted to start early. I’ve been cleaning out my house for years. But I’ve also been adding to it for years. I’m tired of spending money on random crap just to throw it out later. I feel like it has become an addiction.

Now my focus includes purging my house because I want less stuff mostly. I want less stuff so I don’t have to worry about cleaning so much. I want less stuff because I want to do my hobbies. I want less stuff so I can focus on Jesus. I want less stuff so I can focus on sharing Jesus with others. Those are in no particular order. I just want less stuff.

I made a list of my focuses. I took the idea from Small Notebook. I think it’s just very important to start out with WHY you’re doing something. This list IS in a particular order.

1. Spiritual
-Love God.
-Share Jesus with others.
-Worship God.
-Read my bible.
-Pray.

2. Nate
-Love him.
-Encourage him.
-Serve him.

3. Our life.
-Clean and maintain house.
-Groceries. Eat well.
-Pay bills. Manage finances.
-Relax.

4. Me
-Rest.
-Hobbies and interests.
-Health and appearance.
-Social interaction.

5. Everyone else
-Opportunities to serve.
-Communication.
-Time together.
-Love.

Some of those are straight off her list. I just liked them so much and thought they fit my life.

Rest is huge!! I don’t just rest. I always feel like I have something to do. Even with this purge, I’m going to rest. If I am tired, I will rest. Nate is SO good about telling me I need to rest. I don’t realize it because I want to get something done. But that usually burns me out. Rest. It’s important.

After coming back from Rwanda, I realized how little I actually share Jesus with people. I want that to be a huge focus in my life. I want to rely on nothing but God. I want to show people that you can do that. I want to live it. I want to be an encouragement to others. But first, I want to have my focus there. I don’t feel like I can do that with the state my house is in.

attempt #1

So far, I’ve worked in my closet and my jewelry armoire. I’m not worried about counting right now. I’m just purging out the stuff I know I won’t use/need ever. Stuff I haven’t touched since we moved in (and only before just to pack them away to pull them back out to sit and wait to be used).

My pile in the hallway is getting larger. It makes me happy but I then started to think about the stuff I might be getting rid of just to get rid of. So I have started my pile of stuff I will pack away until I can get the time to go through it again unless it is needed before then. Hopefully that pile won’t be too large. I don’t want to store away a lot of stuff just to store it away.

I was putting something away in another room and I looked at all the crap I have to go through in there. I’m not excited about it. I started to get overwhelmed, so I decided to take a break. I have chicken nuggets in the toaster oven cooking. I hope they’re done when my hubby comes home so we can eat together. If they’re done before, I might have to eat before he gets home…

I feel like my life is a never-ending process of cleaning out. I do this every year, but I don’t think I’ve done it to this extent ever. I want to throw out a lot. I really am ready to. And so far, I already have. And I’m still purging Facebook.

I like breaking up my work because I’m not sure what I’m doing, so if I do a lot on the service level now, I can move on to the deeper stuff later. And I don’t have a ton of time to devote to delving into a large project right now. Plus I worked all day at my job, so I don’t even have the mentality right now to do it correctly. Buddy am I ready to get this house done though… I’m just wanting to think about my end result right now though.

purge.

So the “rules” and goals for the official simplifying will come later. I just typed them up but I’m still adding and editing them.

But the first purge I’ve done so far is on Facebook. I don’t want to delete my account, but I spend a lot to time catching up on peoples lives. I like it. I think it’s a great tool. People will “divorce” their Facebook accounts occasionally, but they almost always come back to it. (My sister is all the time “divorcing” her Facebook. That’s her term, not mine.) So I just want to do to Facebook what I’m doing to the rest of my life. Simplify.

I simplified. I hid a lot of people that I don’t even talk to anymore. And the stuff that you become fans of that I don’t care about ever hearing more about them. The thing about hiding people is that they will never know if I hid them or not. I don’t care if you hide me after reading this. I’m not going to be a people pleaser.

Simplify. Simply Fly. I think it’d be neat to call my blog that, but I’m sick of changing up my blog names so this is gonna stay, but I might change my heading.

My plan for tomorrow is to do laundry and purge some clothes. I hope to purge more of my house. I’m starting off small so I don’t overwhelm myself. I want to stick with this. Please let me know if you’re cleaning out and if you have any tips for me. I have read up a lot on this serious purging already. I hope to share what I learn through this process.

Thanks for reading my blog!

vicious cycles

Vicious, indeed. I will blog. Then I won’t. Then I’ll decide it’s been too long. Then I stop. Lovely. Well here we are again. I’m blogging. It’s spring. Time to blog I guess.

I’m gonna start a new series because I have made some recent changes in my life and this is to try to track my progress and keep record of the good, the bad, and the ugly.

Just to update you, I went to Rwanda for an 8 day mission trip with e3 Partners. It was a blast. Maybe I’ll write about my experience later. I journaled every day about every. dadgum. thing. Even some things I won’t be sharing with the general public too.

But since I’ve been back, my husband and I have made some life-altering decisions. First, we prayed and decided that I would apply for a position at our home church. I pursued this job and through lots of prayer, I accepted the position when offered it. But in the middle of all that too, we traded in Nate’s precious Jeep. We both LOVED that thing. We believe I had a harder time letting it go. Nate drove it every day and had to put up with it. It will be missed, but we made the right decision. It needed new tires, some cosmetic work, and some under the hood work. And we just didn’t have the money for that. We have been saving for a new car, but that was supposed to be 3 years down the line. Instead of dipping into those savings, we traded in the Jeep (we actually made our final decision after leaving a dealership where they made us a you-can’t-walk-away-from-this-deal deal and right before we ordered our food at a restaurant) and bought a Dodge Caliber. I’m actually very happy now with our decision. But we’re not a MOPAR family anymore… We’re a silver Dodge family. That’s right. Nate is now driving my silver Dodge Dakota and I’m driving the silver Dodge Caliber.

New car. New job. New hours. New view on life.

My new motto: simple. Live and move simple. Spend simple. I hope this isn’t just another phase. I want to make these changes something I can truly live with. And without regret. We’re pursuing God’s will. I am seeking Him. I want to live a Gospel-centered life. I was us to be a Gospel-centered family.

bobbles and friendships

I had a REALLY busy weekend!

Friday, I went on a 7-couple date at a restaurant that didn’t know how to seat 14 people and 1 kid (They didn’t realize how many tables they were going to need and kept seating other ppl around where they needed out tables and then one would get done and we’d have to wait for another…). But it was still a lot of fun (even though the boys decided we needed to segregate so it was pretty hard ordering pizza with your husband at the opposite end of the table.

Saturday, we met our breakfast friends for brunch at good ole Cracker Barrel! From there, we went to visit my cousin and his wife at the hospital where they had their new baby girl the day before! She’s precious! Then we went back home for just enough time for me to grab my hooks, yarn, and books before I picked up my new friend to go talk, eat, and crochet. We both learned to make bobbles! And we decided we’re going to do a friendship blanket with some other friends! We’re both very excited about this!! Ah! Who knew you could stay up to 11pm making bobbles?! For more on bobbles, click here or here.

Then Sunday, I went to lunch with a sweet friend that was having a hard day. We just talked and stuffed our faces.Β πŸ™‚ Then I finished off the day with watching Raiders of the Lost Ark with the hubby.

Good and busy weekend.πŸ™‚ Now I’m at work with what could potentially be a headache.